This may be a bit morbid, but hear me out?
Recently my grandpa passed on. It wasn’t too unexpected as he made it to 85 years. To say that he lived is a complete understatement. He couldn’t read nor write yet still made it in the SA Navy as a chief petty officer. TIll to this day, I can’t say how he managed to struggle through that.
Your grief might seem all-consuming at first. Here are some tips that helped me:
Journal! journal! journal! I cannot stress this enough. Even though this may seem juvenile in today’s age it helps though. Getting actual pen to paper releases pent-up emotion, words that you couldn’t otherwise have said for the fear of getting tongue-tied or just not being able to say them. Write them down. Each day for as long as you need to.
Have a family date on weekends where you page through your photo albums that caught dust in the cupboard. Do something that you knew was their pastime. If they had a bucket list and couldn’t complete it, do it in their honor.
Aside from donating all their clothes to the needy keep a few items and tweak them for yourself.
Losing someone may cause you to feel strong emotions of anger in time, I suggest meditation, drawing or therapy if you feel that it is truly necessary and are comfortable with talking about your grief.
Understand that everything is exactly as it should be. That the purpose he or she had in your life is infinite. You may not be able to hear their voice any longer but you can take all the knowledge that they passed on to you and share it with someone else. Death is not a bad thing. If anything it should make us want to inspire the desire to live in order to die without any misgivings or regrets. Allow your grief to flow naturally and know that no two persons grief are alike. Your memories are all you have now. It’s up to you to make the most of them.
With love and crazy warm hugs,
By Guest Blogger – Rukeya 🙂